The shorter mount is what reduces the flex. The spacer is to give back the sump clearance.
What side of the bracket are you attempting to fit the spacer? It needs to be between the bracket that bolts to the block and the rubber mount NOT between the mount and the crossmember.
Also, 15mm is too thick. Mine are 12mm which could also be part of the issue.
I also use a flat 2mm steel plate between the rubber mount and the cross member