There's no easy way around that one. You're gonna get fumes and plenty of em if you don't connect the PCV to the intake manifold. I'm still not sure why it's running odd with the PCV connected to the intake manifold? At idle the PCV valve is providing the most (but not complete) restriction.
Take out the PCV valve, rinse it in some turps and give it a shake to hear the rattle. If you can't hear anything rattling the valve might be stuffed.